Four years on a poting, it’s time to go. But what if she says she feels like home now and doesn’t want to leave?

Every diplomatic spouse keeps a mental list of what this life has cost them. Some ask how to stop counting. But is it the counting that is the problem?

Every diplomatic spouse performs at receptions. But if you are a foreign-born spouse, you have an extra act to play. What is it and what to do about it?

When your couple does not feel good but your partner refuses to go to couples therapy, you may think it is a dead end. But it is not. On his reasons to stall the process and where to find the way out.

She never complains. He always took that to mean she was fine. Until the morning she asked for one thing, and the posting said no.

Two people, a few months to go. Neither is saying a word. Neither is really protecting each other. The posting has not started, but distance did.

You can have a plan, a degree, and every intention of staying yourself. The posting life may have other ideas.

She was trying to tell you that you need to prepare. Only one third of couples have it easy on their first posting, the rest struggle. To know why and what to do with it, read my reply.

Your partner followed you twice. Now he wants to go home and stop moving around. You tried to negotiate compromises. These buy you time but rarely resolve what is driving the ultimatum.

Six months into a new posting, she is struggling to settle in, he is desperately trying to fix it.

We are living “the dream life” on our posting, why are we both so lonely? Is this normal? Are we doing something wrong?

2026: The Year of the Diplomatic Couple. Where you find yourselves. What you're fighting about. And what to do with it. New posts every Monday.

Thank you for being part of this year. Your stories, your courage and your honesty about your journey are what make this work meaningful.

They say December is a festive season. In case it is not for you, here are three anchors to keep you going.

On waiting for permission you never needed.

You're not ‘adjusting' to diplomatic life. You are moving through predictable stages of financial dependency, and most spouses get stuck at Stage Two without realising it.

You are not imagining it. Financial dependency is real and painful. But it’s also manageable.

Here is what you have lost, why it hurts so much, and what to do about it.