2025: A Year of Depth and Connection
Thank you for being part of this year. Your stories, your courage and your honesty about your journey are what make this work meaningful.
Three Small Anchors For December
They say December is a festive season. In case it is not for you, here are three anchors to keep you going.
A Diplomat's* Guide: What Your Spouse Is Really Trying To Say to You & Why It Makes Sense To Listen
When your dependent spouse says, “I want to talk about money,” what they are actually saying is “I feel unsafe.” You get defensive and it ends in a fight. But there is another way.
Creating Your Financial Partnership Agreement: The Conversation Your couple Needs (But No One Taught You How to Have)
You have been rehearsing the money conversation for months, while recovering from the last time it failed. Here is what you may need to do before to have a different result.
The Three Stages of Financial Dependency: Where Are You & What Can You Do?
You're not ‘adjusting' to diplomatic life. You are moving through predictable stages of financial dependency, and most spouses get stuck at Stage Two without realising it.
The Unspoken Arithmetic: How Financial Dependency Shows Up in Your Life
You are not imagining it. Financial dependency is real and painful. But it’s also manageable.
It Is Not Your Fault That You Don't Know Who You Are Anymore
Here is what you have lost, why it hurts so much, and what to do about it.
Three Things That Will Help You Through Your First Posting (and second, and third)
No magic bullet. Just three simple things that make all the difference.
Why Your First Posting May Disrupt More Than Just Your Career
Understanding the three psychological needs your first posting disrupts and what to do about it.
Your First Posting: what may Catch YOU Off Guard
The first year of the first diplomatic posting often comes with surprises.
What I admire most…
Why there is no single “right way” to be a diplomatic spouse or partner, and how conscious choice makes all the difference.
The diplomatic environment
Why the life of a diplomatic spouse or partner looks glamorous from the outside but often feels lonely and invisible on the inside.