Hi, I am Olya
I did not come to this work by accident.
Decades ago, I studied International Relations, but life took me elsewhere: into the role of a diplomatic spouse across three continents.
That gave me a front-row seat to lives that looked perfect outside but carried deep, untold stories inside. I met people with master’s and PhD degrees, once-thriving careers, and rich inner lives. Yet, following a partner abroad often meant being reduced to “spouse of.” They adapted, but often at the cost of their sense of self and fulfilment.
I could not accept “this is how it works.” So I trained as a psychologist, worked with spouses & partners, and studied this world in detail. I developed ways to navigate both the gains and the losses of diplomatic life and follow one’s partner without disappearing.
My work exists because I believe that nobody should have to choose between being married and living a full life. What is the choice you want to make?
My values
Diplomatic life can feel isolating when you can’t speak openly. With me, you can share your story knowing it will stay private and be treated with respect.
Confidentiality
One without the other is not enough to live the life that brings you joy. You will learn to recognise where you really are and take practical steps to deal with challenges and enjoy the beauty of diplomatic life.
Validation & solutions
Important for good times, crucial in trying times. You will learn how to trace and silence your inner critic and switch on your inner cheerleader.
Self-compassion
Your story deserves space, but there is so much judgment in the room. You will learn to look at your story with interest without blaming anyone.
Curiosity
Moving again and again can leave you without a sense of home. You will learn how to create belonging — to yourself and to a community that understands this life.