Understand what your partner is going through.
make it a partnership journey.
Why you are here
You signed up for a posting that challenges you, stretches you, and gives you a sense of purpose. Your partner came with you because they love you. But their side of the story is not the same as yours. While you step into a structured role with clear goals, salary and recognition, they may be facing something undefined, unsupported, and very lonely. They want to make this life work just as much as you do. But they may be doing it with fewer resources, no support network, or a strong sense of self. And they need you to be there for them.
When the person you love is struggling, you feel it too. You want them to be happy on your diplomatic posting. But sometimes it does not work like this. And oftentimes, you do not know what is wrong or how to help. You might also feel guilty for bringing them into this life.
When you understand what they are carrying, you can protect your connection instead of watching the resentment and distance grow. And when you both feel seen and valued, the posting becomes something you can share rather than survive separately.
I know you love them, and I know you want to help. Let’s learn more about their journey.
Your partner matters
What to do
To understand your partner’s experience and protect your relationship from erosion, you can take these three steps:
Talk openly about what is happening in your couple and get practical steps you can start using right away.
talk to an expert
Real stories and insights to help you see what your partner might be experiencing — and how other couples navigate it.
Be curious
Sign up for the upcoming masterclass for diplomats to learn in detail about your partner’s journey and ways to be together.
go deeper
What you will learn
We will look at what happens to your spouse or partner when they follow you abroad: from the loss of work and routine, to the pressure of running almost the entire household, to the slow erosion of confidence and connection with you.
You will learn what helps most and what hurts most, how to have discussions that bring you closer, and how to stay partners in a system that often pulls you into parallel lives.