Reclaim Your Identity

12-Week Individual Therapy Programme for Diplomatic Spouses & Partners

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You Moved Countries for Their Career. Where Did You Go?

  • Tricky situation

    You cannot find a job that works with visa restrictions, constant moves, and your partner's unpredictable schedule.

  • Just Filling Time

    You have tried volunteering, hobbies, and online courses, but it all feels like you are just filling time instead of living your life.

  • Unpaid CEO

    You have become the unpaid CEO of your family, managing almost everything alone, while your partner is busy at work.

  • Perfect Spouse

    You attend official events with your partner and smile perfectly, but inside, you are asking, "Is this all I am now?"

  • Career Disappeared

    Your career disappeared slowly with each posting, and now you do not even know what you wanted anymore.

  • Guilty Resentment

    You feel guilty for resenting a life you "chose," but the resentment is destroying you from the inside.

RECLAIM YOUR IDENTITY

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The 12-Week Programme for Diplomatic Spouses Who are Lost on a posting

You gave up your job, your identity and life as you knew it for their career. You have tried to rebuild your life on a posting, but it kept disappearing. You may have become brilliant at supporting everyone else.

But who are you when no one is watching?

In 12 weeks, you will:

  • Understand who you have become and what you left behind

  • Discover how you are disappearing and why

  • Learn to make choices that honour yourself without leaving the posting or rocking your marriage

  • Create a path for your re-appearing on a posting.

Investment: €840 (or 3 payments of €280)

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This program is for you if...

You are a diplomatic spouse who:

  • Has tried to "make it work" with part-time jobs, volunteering, or hobbies, but still feels empty,

  • Manages an entire household alone because your partner is constantly travelling or working,

  • Attends social events as part of the job, smiling while feeling lost,

  • Cannot remember the last time someone asked what you wanted,

  • Feels guilty for being unhappy when you "have a good life",

  • Is exhausted from being endlessly useful but no longer valued as a person.

This is a 12-week structured journey with a clear outcome: you will meet yourself again.

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What We Will Do Together

  • Weeks 1-3: The Identity Audit

    Weekly sessions delve deeply into your losses, resentments, and new reality. Who was I before? What have I given away? What am I grieving? Who have I become?


  • Weeks 4-6: Pattern Recognition

    We explore how and why you keep sacrificing yourself. Where did you learn this? What are you afraid will happen if you stop? How can you stop without losing your marriage?


  • Weeks 7-9: Boundaries & Choice

    We will look at what kind of transformation is needed. What do you actually want? How do you have a fuller life without destroying your marriage? What would honouring yourself look like today?


  • Weeks 10-12: Vision & Plan 

    We work on who you want to be and how to make it happen within the limits of the posting. What does your life look like in one year, three years, five years if you keep choosing yourself on a posting?

I AM READY TO START

I understand your confusion…

…i helped dozens of spouses & partners find their way out of it.

I am Olya, a psychologist and former diplomatic spouse.

My credentials:

  • Trained psychologist & researcher specialising in diplomatic spouses & couples

  • 10 years of experience working with diplomatic spouses & families

  • Expert in self-sacrifice schema and relational patterns

  • Former diplomatic spouse across three continents for 12 years

  • Personal experience of rebuilding after identity loss and financial dependency

I understand your pain because I lived it. I know the way through because I walked it myself and helped dozens of other spouses to find their way on a posting.

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What you will gain in 12 weeks

  • Grieve What You Lost

    You will give yourself permission to mourn your former self and acknowledge what you lost without shame or guilt.

  • See Where You Went

    You will trace when you disappeared and understand how it happened to you as an adaptation to your environment.


  • Understand Your Patterns

    You will see the deep patterns that keep you stuck: the family conditioning, the fears, the beliefs about what makes you worthy.

  • Set Boundaries With Love

    You will practice saying "this is what I need on a posting" without your marriage collapsing and your relationship straining.

I AM READY TO START

Questions You Might Have

  • You could, but here is the reality: there are few specialists who understand both the therapy world deeply and the diplomatic world intimately. I also trained specifically to help people navigate identity loss and self-sacrifice patterns.

    Most therapists have never lived this life. You deserve someone who does not need you to explain why this hurts.

  • No. Quite the opposite. This programme is not about leaving or staying. It is about understanding yourself clearly so you can make conscious choices instead of living on autopilot.

    When you stop disappearing, you can actually show up in your relationship as an equal partner instead of an exhausted supporting character.


  • They might not. They may be afraid you will leave, feel guilty for bringing you here, or simply not understand your experience. That is okay - you do not need their permission to invest in yourself.

    Our work will not be "blame your partner" sessions. We focus on your side of the story and how you can navigate diplomatic life without disappearing, which ultimately makes you a stronger partner.

  • Yes. This programme is designed for diplomatic spouses who may have never explored their inner world. I will guide you gently through every step.


  • We meet weekly for 50-minute individual video sessions. Each session has a clear agenda based on where you are in the 12-week structure. You will also have reflection exercises between sessions to deepen the work.

    We will work purposefully towards understanding yourself, breaking old patterns, and creating a plan for you.

  • Pay attention to how you feel after our sessions. Not whether you cry or feel uncomfortable (you likely will, because we will be touching things you have not allowed yourself to look at before), but whether my style of work resonates with you and whether you feel you are moving towards your goals.

    If after the first few sessions you feel this is not right for you, I will refund your payment for the remaining sessions we have not yet had. Your transformation matters more than holding you to a commitment that does not serve you.

  • I offer payment plans (3 x €280). If finances are genuinely limited, contact me, and we can discuss options.


  • A quiet space where you can speak freely, a device with video capability, and an open heart.


However long you have been Lost, give yourself 12 weeks to be seen again.

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